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When Perfectionism Undermines Your Development

Nov 22, 2017

"Those that are most able to deal with their flaws are most willing to be seen as human . . . [This requires] real moral courage, and that’s the kind of courage that sets us free."
 
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife was so kind to return for our third interview together!  Our first breaks down perfectionism, while our second discusses making decisions based on approval-seeking vs. real goodness.

Have you ever heard the saying, "I am my own worst enemy?" If you've thought or said that about yourself, then this episode is for you.  (And if you haven't, then this episode is also for you.)
 
Jennifer discusses how all of us carry the innate tendency to mask our own humanity--our flaws--from those we love, work with, and even ourselves.  Doing so actually inhibits our growth, creates tension in our relationships, and leads to inner turmoil.  The only way to get over all that is to get over ourselves.
 
Jennifer teaches how to do just that by facing our own flaws with compassion and true moral courage.  She also helps us see what we get out of doing so: a life filled with challenges, certainly; but also a whole lot more love, fulfillment, and freedom.  
 
 

More on Jennifer:
Jennifer Finlayson-Fife grew up in Burlington, Vermont as one of eight children.  She studied Psychology and Women's Studies at Brigham Young University, and went on to receive her Masters and PhD in Counseling Psychology from Boston College.  She has a private practice  in Chicago, IL where she works primarily with LDS couples on relational and sexual issues. She is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts, and has written articles for LDS-themed magazines and blogs on the subjects of sexuality and modesty as well as mental health and faith.  She is married to John Finlayson-Fife and has three wonderful children.

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